WHAT DID WE TALK ABOUT?
Well, we started talking about the difference between sex and intimacy.
What is intimacy with a partner or friend? How it grows.
We walked through a conversational field that had us exploring objectification.
Objectification or harassment?
We scratched a few surfaces we are sure to continue diving into in the future.
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So appreciated the distinction made between ‘just sex’ and intimacy. Helped me understand myself a bit better. And, it will be interesting to see how folx respond to the discussion around objectification. My two cents: we could all benefit from a better/deeper understanding of intent vs impact. There was a lot of reference made to intention in this episode as well as episode 3. Here’s where I land – no matter how good someone’s intention might be the more important question is what impact that person’s words or actions have. How what is said or done is interpreted and experienced by the one on the receiving end is – for me – the key to respecting people and their space.
That is such a great point! I think intent is huge… but impact is also huge… it isn’t just one and disregard the other, SOLID point! Thank you for pointing that out! A great discussion for us to address in some way.
I know some would say… your not in charge of how someone takes something… that is there problem… kinda thing. I think it is more complex and deeper… and, perhaps more simple than that! 🙂
Thank you!
I am really enjoying this new podcast. I was cleaning and half listening until the issue of objectification came up. I appreciate the hosts working through their different viewpoints. I think there is a difference between casual flirting by a stranger and cat-calling. Like the guy who said, “I love the way your hair bounces”. He was definitely not talking about her hair but he was making a joke about it in a way that she could share in the joke. I’ve had guys compliment me and it felt like a compliment and I’ve had guys shout something that on the surface is a compliment but it feels like getting yelled at. Which can be confusing, right, when the message is any form of objectification is bad?
I think this is such a big issue facing women that its worth a whole podcast.